Dan 3 & 4. Izazov prihvaćen. Nedelja promene! *** Day 3 & 4.: Challenge accepted! Week of change! NO SWEETS & MORE EXERCISE :-)

Volim vikende. Tad se mogu više posvetiti sebi i onima koje najviše volim.
A što je tek neobično kad taj vikend padne na pola nedelje promene, a da ja nisam prekršila nijedno pravilo, nego sam vežbala tri puta duže nego prethodnih dana, i uspela bez slatkiša! Divno
I tako...probudim se u subotu okupana suncem, fantastično raspolozena, puna samopouzdanja, plus 1kg manje - pokaže vaga!!! Jupi ја. Kad vam tako počne dan, sa osmehom na licu i u srcu , tako se  dan i nastavi...pa i sledeći..pa sledeći.. Sve je stvar fokusa:-)

Mi sami biramo po čijoj ćemo muzici da igramo. I možemo se voleti i kad nismo iste vrste ( ovo je citat iz crtaća koji smo danas pogledali, nema veze s  postom haha -  Meda Paddington, prepоručujem).

Ja sam bila sportska lenština, ni sad nisam neka vrednica, ali u odnosu na mene pre ovde nedelje izazova – ovo sam druga ja! :-)

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I love weekends. Then I can focus more to myself and those I love the most.
It is unusual when the weekend comes in the week of changes, and I did not violated any rules, trained three times longer than in previous days, and that no candy! delightfully
And so ... I wake up on Saturday bathed in sunshine, fantastic mood, full of confidence, plus 1kg less - shows the scale !!! Yay me. When my morning begin with a smile on my face and in my heart,  day continues to be the same... and the next.. next .. Everything is a matter of our focus:-)

We choose to whose music we will dance. And we can love each other even thought  we arenot the same species (this is a quote from the movie that we looked  today, nothing to do with this post hahah - Paddington Bear, I recommend ).
I am lazy sportist, even now I'm not  much better, but compared to myself  before  this week challenge - this is brand new me! :-)
And if I did it, everyone can! I they can everything!

Dan 2. Izazov prihvaćen. Nedelja promene! *** Day 2: Challenge accepted! Week of change! NO SWEETS & MORE EXERCISE :-)

Dan 2. Izazov prihvaćen. Nedelja promene! ***
Day 2: Challenge accepted! Week of  change!
NO SWEETS & MORE EXERCISE :-)

Kad počinjem sa nečim novim i izazovnim, odradim nešto posebno, simbolično,  kao neki mali ritual za sreću! Zato sam juče, za prvi dan  moje nedelje izazova i promene, obukla crveno  - na radost.
A  i volim tu boju!
Ali  promena zahteva  odlučnost!
A ja sam bila itekako odlučna..pa...skoro 100 %..90..tu negde  ;-)
A tako je bilo lako naći izgovore. ALI..
"Ti to možeš, nemoj samo da sve vreme misliš o slatkišima. Čitaj knjigu!"
To mi je moj prijatelj Armando rekao, kad sam pokušala da ga nagovorim da uzmem samo jedan maaali malecki slatkiš posle ručka. Neki zdravi!
Nisam uspela da ga ubedim. Srećom :-)
I rešila sam da budem dobra devojka. I rekla sam NE slatkišima -definitivno!
I radila sam vežbe!!!
Probudilo me sunce jutros. I ono je bilo ponosno na  mene, baš kao i ja!
Bila sam tako srećna i puna  energije! I nisam ni  razmišljala o slatkišima.
Sve je u našoj glavi.
Potrebno je samo da se fokusiramo na ono što želimo da postignemo, bez nepotrebnih izgovora zašto nešto ne može biti  urađeno. Jer sve  može biti urađeno i mi možemo postići ono što ZAISTA hoćemo!
Jasna namera  i akcija! Samo je to potrebno!
Idemo  na dan  3!

Biljana

When I am starting something new and challenging, I do something symbolic,for good luck!
So yesterday I wore red things - that brings success;-) And i love that color.
But change requires determination!
And I was not determined completely!
It was so easy to find an excuse. BUT...
"You can do it, just don't think about sweets all the time! Read a book"
That is what my friend Armando told me, when i wanted to take just a little candy after lunch, on the first day of my Challenge week - NO SWEETS & MORE EXERCISE :-)
I tried to persuade him...Didn't work, haha.
So, I decided to be a good girl. I said NO to sweets - definitely :-)
And I did some exercises.
This morning, I wake up so proud of myself :-)
I felt so happy and full of energy. I did not even think about sweets hole day.
It is ALL IN OUR HEAD!
We just need to focus on the goal we want to achieve, not on excuses, why it can not be done. Cause IT CAN BE DONE AND WE CAN DO IT IF WE TRULY WANT SOMETHING.

The clear intention and action! Only this is necessary!
Let's go to day 3!

Dan 1. Izazov prihvaćen. Nedelja promene! *** Day 1: Challenge accepted! Week of change!

Ja mislim da ništa nije slučajno. Sinhroniciteti su ipak vrlo pažljivo orkestrirani od strane Univerzuma. 

Univerzum će iskoristiti svaku priliku i sredstvo da komunicira sa nama i od naše otvorenosti zavisi da li ćemo uspeti da razumemo sve što nam se poručuje!

I to se meni juče desilo. Na fejsbooku! Pa neka neko kaže posle da je to uzalud potrošeno vreme,haha.

U  isto vreme dobila  sam preporuku  za vežbe sa jednog kraja sveta,by Nino, koji se potrudio da  meni i svim damama napiše odličan tekst na tu temu: http://kaonapokretnojtraci.blogspot.com/2014/12/vjezbe-za-kexy-tijelo-for-zene-by-nino.html, a izazov mi je poslat sa drugog kraja sveta i sastojao se u tome da jednu nedelju kažem “NE“ slatkišima i krenem sa vežbama svaki dan.

Izazivač je to posle objavio i svetu:  “Nope, not me, but @Bibiliemili has accepted the challenge to say "Nah" to sweets and instead do some exercise, for a whole week! How amazing is that :-)”, Write a short message each day on how it went, so everybody can follow it and be inspired , Armando Lüscher

U isto vreme, ljudi. To je bio ZNAK!

I Ja, jedna sportska lenština i ljubitelj slatkiša, rekla sam DA izazovu!

I krenula sam danas! I uspela sam, jupi ja!

I priznajem, krizirala sam, haha, jer  tako volim da ostavim najslađe za kraj i pojedem slatkiš posle ručka. Uvek sam to volela. Kod nas se kaže, kao šlag na tortu!  Volim to i dalje!

Ali glas razuma,koji nije bio u mojoj glavi, vec se prikazao kroz reči mojih fejs prijatelja, napred  navedenih, haha, rekao mi je YOU  CAN DO IT!

And I DID IT!

Nije bilo slatkiša ( kafu sa aromom čokolade ne računam hihi ) a sad me čeka fitnes orbitrek.

Trenažer imam kod kuće, al je do sada uglavnom samo krasio dnevnu sobu. Idem...jedan, dva, bar petnaest minuta!

Wish me luck i sledećih 6 dana

I, ko je spreman da prihvati izazov? :-)

Biljana

Day 1: Challenge accepted! Week of change!

I think that nothing is accidental. Synchronicities are still very carefully orchestrated by the Universe.

The universe will take advantage of every opportunity and the means to communicate with us and of our openness depends on whether we will be able to understand all we can say!

And it happened to me yesterday. On facebook! So, is it wasted time to be on social network, haha.

At the same time I got a recommendation for exercise from one end of the world, by Nino, who has made an effort for me and all the ladies to write an excellent article on the subject: http://kaonapokretnojtraci.blogspot.com/2014/12/vjezbe-za-kexy Body-for-women-by-nino.html, and the challenge was sent to me from another part of the world and consisted in the fact that  for one week I have to say  "NO" to  sweets and go with the exercises every day.

The challenger published itworldwide, "Nope, not me, butBibiliemili has accepted the challenge to say" nah "to sweets and instead do some exercise, for a whole week! How amazing is that:-) "Armando Lüscher

At the same time, people. It was a sign!

And I, so lazy for sport and a candy fan, said YES the challenge! I've started today! And I did it, yippie! I admit, it was critical, haha, because I love to take sweets after lunch. To save the best for last ;-). I've always loved it. Still do!

But the voice of reason, which was not in my head, but on display in chat with my friends, mentioned above, told me YOU CAN DO IT! And I DID IT!

There was no candy (coffee flavored with chocolate does not count hihi) and now I am preparing for fitness orbitrek. I have it at my home, but so far not used that much . I'm starting... one, two, three, at least for fifteen minutes! Wish me luck in the next 6 days :-)

Who is with me?

Biljana

Vježbe za kexy tijelo (for žene) by Nino Komušar

Vjerojatno svaka žena u nekom periodu svog života želi izgledati sexy u svojim pa i u tuđim očima. E sad što je to sexy? Što muškarci vole kod žena i na što se trebate fokusirati da bi bile sexy, zgodne i zanimljive suprotnom ili istom spolu :) Budući da su ukusi različiti: nekom muškarcu možete biti privlačne i ako imate 30 kg viška i ako imate 20 kila manjka tako da ovo sve sto sam dosad napisao uopće nema smisla ;))

Anyway moderna žena misli da je sexy ono što vidi na tv-u, a to su utegnute guze, vitka linija i tako dalje.. pogledajte si reprizu baywatch-a ako niste sigurni o čemu pišem..

Uglavnom pod broj 1 bi bile neke kardio vježbe.. to su vam one di srce ubrzano pumpa krv i onda ubrza cijeli metabolizam, pa započne proces topljenja masti, pa nakon toga nabustate kondiciju dobite na izdrzljivosti, niste umorni jer imate snage. Uglavnom od tih vježbi budete vitki i fit sa posebnim naglaskom na fit ;)

Tu ima brdo izbora, možete ili hodati onako malo žustrije ili trčati ili voziti bicikl ili jašiti po orbitreku ili po nekoj drugoj kardio spravi, možete preskakati uže (troši najviše kalorija od svih kardio vježbi i smijesno jeftino;) ili otići na službenu stranicu Shaun T-ja ili Jillian Michaels a to vam je (www.piratebay.org) skinete bilo koji video, upalite ga na TV-u ili kompu i hopsate tamo s njima.. stvar funkcionira - znači izbor je na vama sto ce te raditi..

Pod broj 2 su vježbe za guzu.. vjerojatno svaka žena želi imati čvrstu guzu. Ima pregršt vježbi od kojih ću napisati samo jednu koja je kraljica svih vježbi, a to je squat aka čučanj.. ta vježba gradi ne samo guzu nego cijelo tijelo znači i leđa i trbušne i noge  i ramena i prsa.. možete ju raditi bez utega ili sa utezima (sa utezima je napredak brži ;) evo vam link za jubito pa pogledajte na kaj to liči..

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=afghBre8NlI

To radite progresivno jedan dan 20 komada pa drugi 22 pa treci 25 onako kako možete.. za par tjedana ćete ih moći napraviti po 150 komada. Bitno je da radite pravilno ko u videu, znači morate osjećati da vas boli guza nakon i za vrijeme vježbe ;)

Ovaj sljedeći video je varijata sa utezima puno bolja varijanta - ko ima love nek kupi ravnu šipku i bar 40 kg utega. To radite fino 4 serije po 12-15 ponavljanja i garantiram vam za 2 mjeseca ćete imati „savršenu“ guzu i jako tijelo. Pod jako ne mislim da ćete izgledati ko bilderi nego ćete ojačati leđa, noge i sve ono ostalo sto sam napisao ranije.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dy28eq2PjcM

Pod broj 3 vježbe za prsa i ruke, popularni sklekovi ;) To vjerojatno svi znate kako se radi i vjerojatno nema potrebe da stavljam link za jubito.. ono što možda ne znate je da  sklekovima možete povećati veličinu grudi jerbo napravite sloj mišića na prsima pa vam automatski i one narastu ;) ali možete i staviti pushup grudnjak i preskocite tu vježbu - izbor je na vama :) ako ipak zelite prirodno povecati grudi onda ženske na pod i radite sklekove, a naprednija i bolja varijata bi bila da radite bench press no za to vam treba bench klupa ili članstvo u nekoj teretani.. ako će koja od vas raditi squat(čučanj) sa šipkom i utezima onda si joj dokupite i klupu pa imate sve doma i vježbate kad želite..

E sad fokus na ruke.. ako imate problema sa onim visećim krilima na rukama najbrže ćete to eliminirati ovom prejednostavnom vježbom the chair dip ;)

Evo video

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tKjcgfu44sI

Znači običan stolac i radite ovu vježbu. Radite bar 4 serije do otkaza znači koliko god možete.. to će vam izgraditi tricepse, ruke ce vam se popuniti i neće vam nigdje ništa „visiti“ ;) ruke naravno mozete lijepo oblikovati i sa sklekovima, ali tko ne može napraviti niti jedan sklek neka krene sa ovom vjezbom i onda fino kombinirajte chair dip i skleks i ruke vam budu tip top..

možete ruke izvježbati i utezima ima brojnih vježbi za to najučinkovitija je skull crushers od toga meni tricepsi ne da rastu nego bujaju ;))

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9baX4-wEYx8

jbg ko nema utege ili si ih nemozete priuštiti onda chair dip i skleks i fiju..

Da bi napravile ove vježbe za guzu i prsa/ruke treba vam 15-20  minuta vremena.. i to se radi 3-4x tjedno, a sad ako nemate 20min onda vježbajte samo ono gdje znate da ste „tanki“ preporučam vam nakon vježbi za guzu/ruke/prsa da nabacite neki kardio to je ono pod broj 1 ;))

good luck and have fun ;)

 Nino Komušar

What To Do When You Don’t Know What to Do?

"Even the smallest thing seems big when you don’t know what to do about it. Doing nothing is not the right thing to do. It’s exhausting, it’s frustrating, and it’s totally and utterly unproductive.And the only thing that makes it stop? Is to just decide and do something. To just do anything.

Stop thinking it through. Stop making up what might happen. Because that’s what’s happening here, you’re just making it up. Just make the decision instead and enjoy the ride. 

And the only way to know what to do? Well actually, there is no answer to that one.

Other than to not worry about worrying. To not feel anxious about feeling anxious. To accept that sometimes there is no right answer.

To breathe. To try to feel beyond the worry, to try to feel the answer rather than (over) think it.

To stop trying to second-guess every possible outcome of every possible decision. To stop trying to control and account for every accountability. It just isn’t possible.

To trust."

By Emma While

full text:
http://tinybuddha.com/blog/what-to-do-when-you-dont-know-what-to-do

“He who deliberates fully before taking a step will spend his entire life on one leg.” ~Chinese Proverb

Here’s the thing: I don’t know what to do.

About this thing, about that thing. About big things and small things.

About anything.

Actually, to be honest, even the smallest thing seems big when I don’t know what to do about it. The state of “not knowing what to do” is like some kind of Miracle Grow for small things in my mind.

This is not a new thing. Not knowing what to do is a particular and well-honed talent of mine. I can even juggle several not knowing what-to-dos at once.

For example, at the moment I don’t know whether to go away with my friends this weekend or not. And if I do will I take the train? Or get a lift?

I don’t know whether to take that new job. And if I do, when should I start it? What about all those other job offers that will flood through the door the minute I say yes to this one?

I don’t know whether to start the diet tomorrow. Or today. Or next week. Or not at all. I don’t know whether to call my counselor or ride this one out alone.

I don’t know what is best, what is right. I don’t know what I want to do.

Do you know what else I don’t know? I don’t know what to do about not knowing what to do.

And whenever I feel like this (which is not always, but often), I start not knowing what to do about things Idid know what to do about before. Things I had already made decisions on, things I felt excited and sure about before, now feel wobbly and wrong. Even though I know the decisions felt right when I made them.

My brain starts questioning it all: What if I didn’t really know what to do then either, and just decided on something that wasn’t really the right thing to do after all? What if it turns out to be “wrong”? What if I acted on impulse and didn’t think it all through properly?

It’s like I’m mourning all the other possible options that will never, ever happen now because I didn’t choose them.

The little voice in my head chides me: If you choose option a, then such and such might happen, which could lead to x and then that may mean y. Had I known in the beginning about y, maybe I wouldn’t have chosen that original thing. Or would I? How do I know? 

And this uncertainty, the worry, the anxiety, the not knowing, it isn’t picky. It doesn’t just stick to the thing I’m not sure about. It leaks. It seeps into everything else, so instead of feeling uncertain or anxious about one thing in particular, about one decision specifically, I feel anxious, uncertain, and worried full stop. I forget what started it. I just feel it.

I feel it in my chest, near my heart. In my throat. It feels like guilt, muddled with regret, with overtones of panic and an undercurrent of fear. It feels hard and cold, like a vice-like grip.

And I don’t like it. But I just don’t know what to do about it. So I do nothing. Except worry and be anxious that doing nothing is not the right thing to do. It’s exhausting, it’s frustrating, and it’s totally and utterly unproductive.

And the only thing that makes it stop? Is to just decide and do something. To just do anything.

And the only way to know what to do? Well actually, there is no answer to that one.

Other than to not worry about worrying. To not feel anxious about feeling anxious. To accept that there is no right answer.

To breathe. To try to feel beyond the worry, to try to feel the answer rather than (over) think it.

To stop trying to second-guess every possible outcome of every possible decision. To stop trying to control and account for every accountability. It just isn’t possible.

To trust.

I can’t know what will happen. I can’t know how I will feel about any of it. I can’t know whether the decision I make is any better or worse than any other decision I could have made because I am only ever going to experience the one path I do choose.

So I can only react with what I have, what I know, and how I feel, right here and right now. And I don’t need to know how to do that; I just need to do it. I just need to allow it to happen.

Back to my decisions. Well, I still don’t know what to do. I still don’t know what the “right” thing is.

But maybe that’s not so much of a problem after all.

Because I do know what the wrong thing is. And that’s to make no decision at all. Even if the decision I make is not to decide just yet—that is still a decision. Own it.

A friend once said to me, “Whenever the time is right, it will be the right time.” It helps me relax about my decisions.

I often wonder: Am I the only one like this? I don’t know that either, but if you’re with me:

Stop thinking it through. Stop making up what might happen. Because that’s what’s happening here, you’re just making it up. Just make the decision instead and enjoy the ride. Whatever it turns out to be, it doesn’t really matter—you can change it later if you really have to.

Whatever the decision is, just make it. What’s the worst that can happen, really?

Just make the decision and then be glad you did. Enjoy the freedom and the relief that follows.

Enjoy the present, indecision free. Because while you’re busy worrying about what might happen tomorrow, guess what? You’re missing out on all the great stuff happening today.

So just decide. Just relax.

Want to know the good news? The decision thing is just as leaky as the indecision thing.

Once I get going again, I know there’ll be no stopping me. I’ll breeze through decisions that floored me before. I’ll put those small things back in their place. And if it feels wrong, I’ll change it. I won’t worry about it. Things that felt a bit wrong and weird before just won’t matter anymore.

I won’t know where this whole confident, decision making thing came from. I’ll just feel it.

I’ll feel it in my chest, near my heart. It will feel like contentment, embracing joy, tickled with peace and flavored with lightness. It will feel soft and warm, like molten honey trickling through my veins. It will make me smile.

And I will love it. And I will do all I can to hold on to it.

That I do know.

So let’s just get started. Let’s just relax. Let’s just decide. And let’s never look back.

Photo by J. Tegnerud

Soul Mates

What if everyone actually had only one soul mate, a random person somewhere in the world?

—Benjamin Staffin

What a nightmare that would be.

There are a lot of problems with the concept of a single random soul mate. As Tim Minchin put it in his song If I Didn’t Have You:

Your love is one in a million
You couldn’t buy it at any price.

But of the 9.999 hundred thousand other loves,
Statistically, some of them would be equally nice.

But what if we did have one randomly-assigned perfect soul mate, and we couldn’t be happy with anyone else? Would we find each other?

We’ll assume your soul mate is set at birth. You know nothing about who or where they are, but—as in the romantic cliché—you’ll recognize each other the moment your eyes meet.

Right away, this raises a few questions. For starters, is your soul mate even still alive? A hundred billion or so humans have ever lived, but only seven billion are alive now (which gives the human condition a 93% mortality rate). If we’re all paired up at random, 90% of our soul mates are long dead.

That sounds horrible. But wait, it gets worse: A simple argument shows we can’t just limit ourselves to past humans; we have to include an unknown number of future humans as well. See, if it’s possible for your soul mate to be in the distant past, then it also has to be possible for soul mates to be in the distant future. After all, your soul mate’s soul mate is.

So let’s assume your soul mate lives at the same time as you. Furthermore, to keep things from getting creepy, we’ll assume they’re within a few years of your age. (This is stricter than the standard age gap creepiness formula, but if we assume a 30-year-old and a 40-year-old can be soul mates, then the creepiness rule is violated if they accidentally meet 15 years earlier.) With the same-age restriction, most of us have a pool of around half a billion potential matches.

But what about gender and sexual orientation? And culture? And language? We could keep using demographics to try to break things down further, but we’d be drifting away from the idea of a random soul mate. In our scenario, you don’t know anything about who your soul mate will be until you look into their eyes. Everybody has only one orientation—toward their soul mate.

The odds of running into your soul mate are incredibly small. The number of strangers we make eye contact with each day is hard to estimate. It can vary from almost none (shut-ins or people in small towns) to many thousands (a police officer in Times Square). Let’s suppose you lock eyes with an average of a few dozen new strangers each day. (I’m pretty introverted, so for me that’s definitely a generous estimate.) If 10% of them are close to your age, that’s around 50,000 people in a lifetime. Given that you have 500,000,000 potential soul mates, it means you’ll only find true love in one lifetime out of ten thousand.

But with the threat of dying alone looming so imminently, society could restructure to try to enable as much eye contact as possible. We could put together massive conveyer belts to move lines of people past each other …

... but if the eye contact effect works over webcams, we could just use a modified version of ChatRoulette.

If everyone used the system for eight hours a day, seven days a week, and if it takes you a couple seconds to decide if someone’s your soul mate, this system could—in theory—match everyone up with their soul mates in a few decades. (I modeled a few simple systems to estimate how quickly people would pair off and drop out of the singles pool. If you want to try to work through the math for a particular setup, you might start by looking at derangement problems.)

In the real world, many people have trouble finding any time at all for romance—few could devote two decades to it. So maybe only rich kids would be able to afford to sit around on SoulMateRoulette. Unfortunately for the proverbial 1%, most of their soul mates are to be found in the other 99%. If only 1% of people use the service, then 1% of that 1% would find their match through this system—one in ten thousand.

The other 99% of the 1% (“We are the zero point nine nine percent!”) would have an incentive to get more people into the system. They might sponsor projects akin to One Laptop Per Child (but with a sleazier vibe). Careers like “cashier” and “police officer in Times Square” would become high-status prizes because of the eye contact potential. People would flock to cities and public gathering places to find love—just as they do now.

But even if a bunch of us spent years on SoulMateRoulette, another bunch of us managed to hold jobs that offered constant eye contact with strangers, and the rest of us just hoped for luck, only a small minority of us would ever find true love. The rest of us would be out of luck.

Given all the stress and pressure, some people would fake it. They’d want to join the club, so they’d get together with another lonely person and stage a fake soul mate encounter. They’d marry, hide their relationship problems, and struggle to present a happy face to their friends and family. (Of course, this never happens in our world.)

All in all, the world of random soul mates is an even lonelier one than ours. I prefer Tim Minchin’s take on things:

With all my heart and all my mind I know one thing is true:
I have just one life and just one love and, my love, that love is you.

And if it wasn't for you, baby,
I really think that I would
have somebody else.

 https://what-if.xkcd.com/9/

Imaju li ljudska bića slobodnu volju?

Imaju li ljudska bića slobodnu volju, ili su predmet sudbine? O ovom pitanju se razgovaralo već tisućama godina. Pogrešno je misliti da svi pojedinci podliježu istim zakonima. Oni, koji poput životinja, samo slijede svoje čisto instinktivne impulse, neizbježno podliježu zakonima sudbine; njihova vlastita priroda je ta, koja stvara njihovu sudbinu.

Oni s druge strane, koji su stekli majstorstvo nad svojim instinktima i svojim strastima, izmiču sudbini i ulaze u carstvo providnosti, milosti, gdje doživljavaju svjetlo i slobodu. Nemojte misliti da svatko može biti slobodan ili da svatko mora podnijeti neumoljivu sudbinu. Ne, sloboda ovisi o osobnom stupnju razvoja svakog čovjeka. Shodno tome kako misle, osjećaju i djeluju, ljudi ili padaju u kvačila sudbine ili privuku na sebe blagoslove providnosti. Tako su u nekim oblastima sputani, podložni sudbini, dok u drugima izmiču sudbini i slobodni su … dok dođe dan kada će njihova sloboda biti potpuna.

Omraam Mikhaël Aïvanhov

http://radioliberum.org

Learning How to Float by Mark Nepo

When we stop struggling,

we float.

When first learning how to swim, I didn’t trust the deep. No matter how many assuring

voices I heard from the shore, I strained and flapped to keep my chin above the

surface. It exhausted me, and only when exhausted did I relax enough to immerse

myself to the point that I could feel the cradle of the deep keep me afloat.

I’ve come to understand that this is the struggle we all replay between doubt and faith.

When thrust into any situation over our head, our reflex is to fight with all our might

the terrible feeling that we are sinking. Yet the more we resist, the more we feel our own

weight and wear ourselves out.

At times like this, I remember learning to float. Mysteriously, it required letting almost

all of me rest below the surface before the deep would hold me up. It seems to me,

almost forty years later, that the practice of finding our faith is very much like that—we

need to rest enough of ourselves below the surface of things until we find ourselves

upheld.

This is very hard to do. But the essence of trust is believing you will be held up if you

let go. And though we can practice relaxing our fear and meeting the deep, there is no

real way to prepare for letting go other than to just let go.

Once immersed, once below the surface, it is not by chance that things slow down, go

clear, feel weightless. Perhaps faith is nothing more than taking the risk to rest below

the surface.

That we can’t stay there only affirms that we must choose the deep again and again in

order to live fully. That we must move through the sense of sinking before being upheld

is what trusting the Universe is all about.

~Mark Nepo, The Book of Awakening

Mark Nepo

How to Follow Your Intuition

1.   Trust your instincts. It can be difficult to depend on something that you don't understand, and you probably shouldn't base every one of your decisions on intuition. For example, if you're hiring someone,you should look at qualifications first and foremost, or else you might accidentally discriminate. But when you've weighed all the options and there is no obvious, rational choice, intuition's really all you've got. 

2.  Ask yourself questions and listen to the first answer that pops into your mind. That isn't easy, because several thoughts will flood your mind at once. For instance, let's say you're looking at a menu. In figuring out what you want, pick out the first thing that stands out to you. Ignore the remainder of your thoughts, like "But I didn't even look at the specials...but my friend is on a diet and I'll feel bad eating this in front of her...but my uncle said the mashed potatoes he had here were too mushy...blah, blah, blah." Don't dwell on it. Just pick something. It's scary...what if you make the wrong choice?...but you'll be fine.

3.  Meditate. Clearing your mind of repetitive thoughts and worries will make it easier to listen to your intuition. Find a meditative technique you are comfortable using and practice.

4. Listen to your gut. There's a reason it's called a "gut feeling". Many times, a decision that you "know" is wrong makes you feel discomfort in your stomach area.

5.  Listen to and communicate with your multiple brains. Neuroscience research has shown we have functional and complex brains in both our heart and gut. These brains have memory and intelligence. As the points above indicate, your gut and heart brains know when something isn't right and will tell you through feelings, hunches and messages. You can communicate with these brains through simple language, imagery and touch.

6. Keep an intuition journal. Every day, use your intuition to make a guess about someone or something. Don't act on it, though. Just write it down. Focus on statements like "I have a feeling that..." or "My intuition tells me that..." If there are any sensations associated with your intuition, such as a vision, or physical discomfort, be sure to record it. Looking back in your journal, see how often you are right. As you learn more about how to recognize your intuition, and you see it leading you in the right direction, your confidence will grow and so will your intuitive power.

7. Exercise the right side of your brain. Intuition is drawn from the right hemisphere of the brain which is the same side that controls nonverbal, holistic thought and expression. Here are some other ways to "work out" your intuition:

Be Creative, Trust, Paint, Visualise

DANCE

http://www.tutrans.net/index.php/more/197-how-to-follow-your-intuition

Biti svoj vlastiti autoritet

Jedna od najvažnijih lekcija u životu, po mom uvjerenju je naučiti vjerovati samima sebi i slušati svoj unutarnji glas radije nego bilo koga izvana. Nekritičnim prihvaćanjem stavova i uvjerenja drugih ljudi (poznato je koliko je to svojstveno djeci i koliko svojeg istinskog 'ja' na taj način ona mogu izgubiti) odričemo se vlastite odgovornosti i moći. Tada čak ni naši uspjesi nisu istinski naši. Vjerujem da možete navesti primjer iz vlastitog života kad ste u nečije ideje i razmišljanje imali mnogo povjerenja, da bi s vremenom, na lakši ili teži način, naučili da on/ona nema sve informacije i da njegova istina ne mora biti i vaša. To je vrlo vrijedna lekcija i vjerujem da nam je svima, možda i ne jednom, potrebno proći kroz takvo iskustvo.

Čak niti netko koga smatrate najvišim duhovnim učiteljem ne mora uvijek imati 'čisti kanal' i prave informacije. Čak i kad bi imali, postavlja se pitanje postoji li uopće nešto što je u svim situacijama apsolutna istina? Vjerujem da takvih ima vrlo malo. Možda ste se našli u situaciji kad ste osjetili unutarnji poriv da učinite nešto što nije bilo sasvim u skladu s vašim uobičajenim uvjerenjima, da biste kasnije uvidjeli da je taj postupak stvorio mnogo više koristi i za vas i za druge nego da ste se čvrsto držali svojih pravila. Život je beskrajno raznolik; ljudi, odnosi i situacije su uvijek iznova jedinstveni, a naš unutarnji glas ima pristup moćnijem izvoru informacija nego naš razum.

Na žalost, velika većina religija i duhovnih praksi zahtijeva slijeđenje velikog broja pravila, ponekad i vrlo sitničavih, u svim područjima života, ne ostavljajući time prostora intuiciji i osobnoj istini. Vjerujem da traženjem sigurnosti i pokušavanjem izgradnje samopoštovanja kroz slijeđenje takvih pravila, na emocionalnoj razini pokušavamo zadovoljiti duhovni autoritet kao što smo u djetinjstvu pokušavali (neuspješno) zadovoljiti roditelje. Ako to zahtijeva potiskivanje svojih spontanih poriva i emocija, prije ili kasnije će završiti neuspjehom.

Čak i najsavršeniji zemaljski roditelji nisu uvijek u stanju zadovoljiti djetetove potrebe, a većina roditelja u sadašnjoj fazi razvoja čovječanstva nema ni izdaleka dovoljno ljubavi i poštovanja za dijete kao ljudsko biće. Dijete vrlo brzo zaključi da je ljubav uvjetovana i počinje je pokušavati zaslužiti nastojanjem da bude savršeno, po mogućnosti bolje od svih drugih. Slijepo slijeđenje bilo kakvih pravila i kod odrasle osobe suptilan je rezultat te potrebe. Također, mnoga djeca nauče nemati povjerenja sama u sebe i vlastite odluke, te i kao odrasli ljudi radije traže savjete i usmjerenje od drugih, nego da preuzmu rizik pogreške. Tako se može stvoriti više ili manje suptilna ovisnost o vanjskom autoritetu. Da bi se to moglo dogoditi, mora postojati i druga strana - osoba koja se postavlja kao autoritet i želi imati moć nad drugim ljudima.

Svi smo skloni vjerovati autoritetima - učili su nas da budemo takvi. Većina ljudi je automatski spremna vjerovati osobi koja djeluje sigurno u svoje stavove. Ako nešto piše u knjizi ili novinama, mnogi ljudi će to automatski prihvatiti kao provjerenu informaciju. Dok neki ljudi zbog potrebe za moći pod svaku cijenu žele prezentirati svoja uvjerenja kao apsolutnu istinu, drugi, obično oni kod kojih je osjećaj nesigurnosti bliži svjesnom dijelu ličnosti, lako će biti pokolebani samim njihovim samouvjerenim stavom.

Najveću štetu čine ljudi koji su najsuptilniji u manipuliranju. Često ćete se naći u situaciji kad sve riječi zvuče ispravno i razumno, i teško vam je pronaći protuargument, ali i dalje osjećate da nešto nedostaje ili nije u redu. Moja je preporuka za takve situacije: uzmite trenutak da poslušate taj osjećaj u svom tijelu, da ga pokušate prevesti u riječi. Tako dobivene informacije obično će 'razoružati' manipulatora bolje nego bilo koji argument smišljen racionalno.

Sumnju trebamo prihvatiti kao koristan i prijateljski osjećaj. Bez nje bi se lako zanosili bilo kakvim idejama i bili mnogo podložniji iskorištavanju i manipulaciji. Sumnja nas potiče da ih preispitujemo i da pravimo razliku između ponekad vrlo sličnih informacija i ideja. Sasvim je prirodno da se i znanstvenici, koji bi po definiciji morali imati čvrste dokaze za svoje teorije, često u njima vrlo razilaze i sukobljavaju, stare teorije se stalno pobijaju i 'dokazuju' nove i obratno, a koliko je tek lako stvarati teorije ako ih potkrepljujemo samo dokazima nastalim u vlastitom umu.

Slušajte taj 'osjećaj u trbuhu' kad god čitate neku knjigu ili razgovarate s nekim. No budite svjesni da otpor može biti zdrav ili nezdrav. Zdrav otpor je onaj kod kojeg njegovim ispitivanjem možete pronaći razloge za otpor i neslaganje; nezdrav otpor je u pravilu iracionalan, često i jače potisnut, a može se javiti čak i kad smo svjesni da je sve što čitamo ili čujemo pozitivno i bez manipulacije. Nezdravi otpor je uzrokovan aktiviranjem potisnutog dječjeg otpora autoritetu i njegovim zahtjevima (npr. dijete koje se prisiljava da bude nesebično prije nego što je ono za to prirodno spremno, lako će razviti otpor prema bilo kakvom poticaju na nesebičnost). Ako primijetite takav otpor, istražite koje ga riječi ili izrazi posebno potiču. Razlike između zdravog i nezdravog otpora mogu biti vrlo suptilne, a ponekad obje vrste otpora mogu biti prisutne istovremeno. Međutim, kroz vježbu i upoznavanje svojih emocionalnih reakcija, moguće ih je naučiti prepoznavati.

Ne uzimajte ništa zdravo za gotovo. Provjeravajte informacije koje druga osoba navodi, zapažajte kojim se riječima služi. Pokušajte smisliti sve razloge zašto bi neka tvrdnja mogla biti neistinita ili nepotpuna. Npr. ako vam netko predoči rezultate nekog istraživanja, zapitajte se što je sve moglo utjecati na to da istraživanje ne bude dovoljno objektivno i pouzdano.

Moguće je zvučati iznimno inteligentno, a opet govoriti bez istinskog smisla. Ljudi vješti na riječima mogu lako stvarati najrazličitije kombinacije riječi i učiniti da one zvuče smisleno, čak i mudro. Srela sam više takvih ljudi, a vjerojatno i vi. Radi vježbe, pokušajte pročitati nekoliko 'visoko intelektualnih' knjiga ili poslušati nekoliko sličnih emisija na radiju ili televiziji, te provjeriti što u vašem tijelu odzvanja kao riječi koje imaju dubinu, a što kao isprazno intelektualiziranje.

Jedan od načina manipulacije je iznijeti nepouzdane i neprovjerene teze te iz njih stvoriti zaključak. Mnoge ljude će dovoljno 'zaslijepiti' prividna logičnost zaključka da neće obraćati pažnju na pouzdanost podataka iz kojih je on izveden. Čak i ako osoba ne laže svjesno - kako možemo znati da su podaci koje ona ima sigurno točni? Načini prepoznavanja svjesnih laži (i poluistina) bit će tema za posebni članak.
(Kako ni sami nismo savršeni, jednako je potrebno provjeravati i vlastito ponašanje. No kako će preispitivanje sebe biti tema mnogih slijedećih članaka, ovaj put se nećemo usmjeriti na to.)

Manipulatori se često pozivaju na pozitivne ideale i emocionalne težnje, na velike riječi kao što su ljubav, istina, duhovnost, svjetlost, Bog... To je često pokriće za nedostatak istinskih, razložnih argumenata.
(Istinit citat: 'Moraš dopustiti da ti tvoje Više ja pokaže da sam ja u pravu!' Ovo je prilično očita, nesuptilna manipulacija - stvarno dobri manipulatori bit će mnogo indirektniji.)

Mudar savjet koji sam nedavno dobila: ako se netko razbacuje velikim, apstraktnim riječima, provjeri što želi od tebe! Neki će možda željeti samo vaše divljenje i uvažavanje, dok će vas neki željeti iskoristiti na mnogo konkretnije načine. Čak i samo nedostatak poštovanja prema vašem osobnom izboru i vašim uvjerenjima dovoljan je razlog za oprez, čak i ako vam se inače čini da je osoba u pravu.

Zapravo se u prosječnoj međuljudskoj komunikaciji jako rijetko čuje nešto što možemo bez rezerve prihvatiti kao istinu. Govorenje iz vlastitih ograničenja i uvjerenja, stvaranje zaključaka na temelju malog broja primjera, prilagođavanje ideja ili podataka svojim uvjerenjima ili potrebama situacije, blago uljepšavanje priče u svoju korist (ili samo radi efekta), prihvaćanje ideja samo zato što lijepo zvuče ili radi bildanja vlastitog ega... Bezbroj je načina na koje se realnost može čak i nesvjesno i nenamjerno iskriviti. Imajte to na umu čak i kad razgovarate s ljudima u koje imate povjerenja i za koje znate da ne žele manipulirati vama. I bez obzira koliko cijenili nečiju inteligenciju, iskustvo, znanje, pa i duhovni autoritet, uvijek imajte na umu da i ta osoba u svakom trenutku može pogriješiti. Ne zato da bi je kritizirali - potpuno je nerealno očekivati savršenstvo od bilo koga - nego zato da ostanete u svojoj istini i živite svoj život, a ne tuđi.

Autor: Kosjenka Muk

http://www.centar-angel.hr/HR/articles/vlastiti-autoritet.php