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"Just close your eyes and you can see, 

that we are where we're meant to be."

                                                                  G. Strait

OMG..this is SOOO SOOO TRUE :-)

"Start by doing what's necessary; then do what's possible; 

and suddenly you are doing the impossible." - St. Francis of Assisi

Dan 3 & 4. Izazov prihvaćen. Nedelja promene! *** Day 3 & 4.: Challenge accepted! Week of change! NO SWEETS & MORE EXERCISE :-)

Volim vikende. Tad se mogu više posvetiti sebi i onima koje najviše volim.
A što je tek neobično kad taj vikend padne na pola nedelje promene, a da ja nisam prekršila nijedno pravilo, nego sam vežbala tri puta duže nego prethodnih dana, i uspela bez slatkiša! Divno
I tako...probudim se u subotu okupana suncem, fantastično raspolozena, puna samopouzdanja, plus 1kg manje - pokaže vaga!!! Jupi ја. Kad vam tako počne dan, sa osmehom na licu i u srcu , tako se  dan i nastavi...pa i sledeći..pa sledeći.. Sve je stvar fokusa:-)

Mi sami biramo po čijoj ćemo muzici da igramo. I možemo se voleti i kad nismo iste vrste ( ovo je citat iz crtaća koji smo danas pogledali, nema veze s  postom haha -  Meda Paddington, prepоručujem).

Ja sam bila sportska lenština, ni sad nisam neka vrednica, ali u odnosu na mene pre ovde nedelje izazova – ovo sam druga ja! :-)

***

I love weekends. Then I can focus more to myself and those I love the most.
It is unusual when the weekend comes in the week of changes, and I did not violated any rules, trained three times longer than in previous days, and that no candy! delightfully
And so ... I wake up on Saturday bathed in sunshine, fantastic mood, full of confidence, plus 1kg less - shows the scale !!! Yay me. When my morning begin with a smile on my face and in my heart,  day continues to be the same... and the next.. next .. Everything is a matter of our focus:-)

We choose to whose music we will dance. And we can love each other even thought  we arenot the same species (this is a quote from the movie that we looked  today, nothing to do with this post hahah - Paddington Bear, I recommend ).
I am lazy sportist, even now I'm not  much better, but compared to myself  before  this week challenge - this is brand new me! :-)
And if I did it, everyone can! I they can everything!

Dan 2. Izazov prihvaćen. Nedelja promene! *** Day 2: Challenge accepted! Week of change! NO SWEETS & MORE EXERCISE :-)

Dan 2. Izazov prihvaćen. Nedelja promene! ***
Day 2: Challenge accepted! Week of  change!
NO SWEETS & MORE EXERCISE :-)

Kad počinjem sa nečim novim i izazovnim, odradim nešto posebno, simbolično,  kao neki mali ritual za sreću! Zato sam juče, za prvi dan  moje nedelje izazova i promene, obukla crveno  - na radost.
A  i volim tu boju!
Ali  promena zahteva  odlučnost!
A ja sam bila itekako odlučna..pa...skoro 100 %..90..tu negde  ;-)
A tako je bilo lako naći izgovore. ALI..
"Ti to možeš, nemoj samo da sve vreme misliš o slatkišima. Čitaj knjigu!"
To mi je moj prijatelj Armando rekao, kad sam pokušala da ga nagovorim da uzmem samo jedan maaali malecki slatkiš posle ručka. Neki zdravi!
Nisam uspela da ga ubedim. Srećom :-)
I rešila sam da budem dobra devojka. I rekla sam NE slatkišima -definitivno!
I radila sam vežbe!!!
Probudilo me sunce jutros. I ono je bilo ponosno na  mene, baš kao i ja!
Bila sam tako srećna i puna  energije! I nisam ni  razmišljala o slatkišima.
Sve je u našoj glavi.
Potrebno je samo da se fokusiramo na ono što želimo da postignemo, bez nepotrebnih izgovora zašto nešto ne može biti  urađeno. Jer sve  može biti urađeno i mi možemo postići ono što ZAISTA hoćemo!
Jasna namera  i akcija! Samo je to potrebno!
Idemo  na dan  3!

Biljana

When I am starting something new and challenging, I do something symbolic,for good luck!
So yesterday I wore red things - that brings success;-) And i love that color.
But change requires determination!
And I was not determined completely!
It was so easy to find an excuse. BUT...
"You can do it, just don't think about sweets all the time! Read a book"
That is what my friend Armando told me, when i wanted to take just a little candy after lunch, on the first day of my Challenge week - NO SWEETS & MORE EXERCISE :-)
I tried to persuade him...Didn't work, haha.
So, I decided to be a good girl. I said NO to sweets - definitely :-)
And I did some exercises.
This morning, I wake up so proud of myself :-)
I felt so happy and full of energy. I did not even think about sweets hole day.
It is ALL IN OUR HEAD!
We just need to focus on the goal we want to achieve, not on excuses, why it can not be done. Cause IT CAN BE DONE AND WE CAN DO IT IF WE TRULY WANT SOMETHING.

The clear intention and action! Only this is necessary!
Let's go to day 3!

Be nice to yourself

Promise me this :-)

What To Do When You Don’t Know What to Do?

"Even the smallest thing seems big when you don’t know what to do about it. Doing nothing is not the right thing to do. It’s exhausting, it’s frustrating, and it’s totally and utterly unproductive.And the only thing that makes it stop? Is to just decide and do something. To just do anything.

Stop thinking it through. Stop making up what might happen. Because that’s what’s happening here, you’re just making it up. Just make the decision instead and enjoy the ride. 

And the only way to know what to do? Well actually, there is no answer to that one.

Other than to not worry about worrying. To not feel anxious about feeling anxious. To accept that sometimes there is no right answer.

To breathe. To try to feel beyond the worry, to try to feel the answer rather than (over) think it.

To stop trying to second-guess every possible outcome of every possible decision. To stop trying to control and account for every accountability. It just isn’t possible.

To trust."

By Emma While

full text:
http://tinybuddha.com/blog/what-to-do-when-you-dont-know-what-to-do

“He who deliberates fully before taking a step will spend his entire life on one leg.” ~Chinese Proverb

Here’s the thing: I don’t know what to do.

About this thing, about that thing. About big things and small things.

About anything.

Actually, to be honest, even the smallest thing seems big when I don’t know what to do about it. The state of “not knowing what to do” is like some kind of Miracle Grow for small things in my mind.

This is not a new thing. Not knowing what to do is a particular and well-honed talent of mine. I can even juggle several not knowing what-to-dos at once.

For example, at the moment I don’t know whether to go away with my friends this weekend or not. And if I do will I take the train? Or get a lift?

I don’t know whether to take that new job. And if I do, when should I start it? What about all those other job offers that will flood through the door the minute I say yes to this one?

I don’t know whether to start the diet tomorrow. Or today. Or next week. Or not at all. I don’t know whether to call my counselor or ride this one out alone.

I don’t know what is best, what is right. I don’t know what I want to do.

Do you know what else I don’t know? I don’t know what to do about not knowing what to do.

And whenever I feel like this (which is not always, but often), I start not knowing what to do about things Idid know what to do about before. Things I had already made decisions on, things I felt excited and sure about before, now feel wobbly and wrong. Even though I know the decisions felt right when I made them.

My brain starts questioning it all: What if I didn’t really know what to do then either, and just decided on something that wasn’t really the right thing to do after all? What if it turns out to be “wrong”? What if I acted on impulse and didn’t think it all through properly?

It’s like I’m mourning all the other possible options that will never, ever happen now because I didn’t choose them.

The little voice in my head chides me: If you choose option a, then such and such might happen, which could lead to x and then that may mean y. Had I known in the beginning about y, maybe I wouldn’t have chosen that original thing. Or would I? How do I know? 

And this uncertainty, the worry, the anxiety, the not knowing, it isn’t picky. It doesn’t just stick to the thing I’m not sure about. It leaks. It seeps into everything else, so instead of feeling uncertain or anxious about one thing in particular, about one decision specifically, I feel anxious, uncertain, and worried full stop. I forget what started it. I just feel it.

I feel it in my chest, near my heart. In my throat. It feels like guilt, muddled with regret, with overtones of panic and an undercurrent of fear. It feels hard and cold, like a vice-like grip.

And I don’t like it. But I just don’t know what to do about it. So I do nothing. Except worry and be anxious that doing nothing is not the right thing to do. It’s exhausting, it’s frustrating, and it’s totally and utterly unproductive.

And the only thing that makes it stop? Is to just decide and do something. To just do anything.

And the only way to know what to do? Well actually, there is no answer to that one.

Other than to not worry about worrying. To not feel anxious about feeling anxious. To accept that there is no right answer.

To breathe. To try to feel beyond the worry, to try to feel the answer rather than (over) think it.

To stop trying to second-guess every possible outcome of every possible decision. To stop trying to control and account for every accountability. It just isn’t possible.

To trust.

I can’t know what will happen. I can’t know how I will feel about any of it. I can’t know whether the decision I make is any better or worse than any other decision I could have made because I am only ever going to experience the one path I do choose.

So I can only react with what I have, what I know, and how I feel, right here and right now. And I don’t need to know how to do that; I just need to do it. I just need to allow it to happen.

Back to my decisions. Well, I still don’t know what to do. I still don’t know what the “right” thing is.

But maybe that’s not so much of a problem after all.

Because I do know what the wrong thing is. And that’s to make no decision at all. Even if the decision I make is not to decide just yet—that is still a decision. Own it.

A friend once said to me, “Whenever the time is right, it will be the right time.” It helps me relax about my decisions.

I often wonder: Am I the only one like this? I don’t know that either, but if you’re with me:

Stop thinking it through. Stop making up what might happen. Because that’s what’s happening here, you’re just making it up. Just make the decision instead and enjoy the ride. Whatever it turns out to be, it doesn’t really matter—you can change it later if you really have to.

Whatever the decision is, just make it. What’s the worst that can happen, really?

Just make the decision and then be glad you did. Enjoy the freedom and the relief that follows.

Enjoy the present, indecision free. Because while you’re busy worrying about what might happen tomorrow, guess what? You’re missing out on all the great stuff happening today.

So just decide. Just relax.

Want to know the good news? The decision thing is just as leaky as the indecision thing.

Once I get going again, I know there’ll be no stopping me. I’ll breeze through decisions that floored me before. I’ll put those small things back in their place. And if it feels wrong, I’ll change it. I won’t worry about it. Things that felt a bit wrong and weird before just won’t matter anymore.

I won’t know where this whole confident, decision making thing came from. I’ll just feel it.

I’ll feel it in my chest, near my heart. It will feel like contentment, embracing joy, tickled with peace and flavored with lightness. It will feel soft and warm, like molten honey trickling through my veins. It will make me smile.

And I will love it. And I will do all I can to hold on to it.

That I do know.

So let’s just get started. Let’s just relax. Let’s just decide. And let’s never look back.

Photo by J. Tegnerud

Soul Mates

What if everyone actually had only one soul mate, a random person somewhere in the world?

—Benjamin Staffin

What a nightmare that would be.

There are a lot of problems with the concept of a single random soul mate. As Tim Minchin put it in his song If I Didn’t Have You:

Your love is one in a million
You couldn’t buy it at any price.

But of the 9.999 hundred thousand other loves,
Statistically, some of them would be equally nice.

But what if we did have one randomly-assigned perfect soul mate, and we couldn’t be happy with anyone else? Would we find each other?

We’ll assume your soul mate is set at birth. You know nothing about who or where they are, but—as in the romantic cliché—you’ll recognize each other the moment your eyes meet.

Right away, this raises a few questions. For starters, is your soul mate even still alive? A hundred billion or so humans have ever lived, but only seven billion are alive now (which gives the human condition a 93% mortality rate). If we’re all paired up at random, 90% of our soul mates are long dead.

That sounds horrible. But wait, it gets worse: A simple argument shows we can’t just limit ourselves to past humans; we have to include an unknown number of future humans as well. See, if it’s possible for your soul mate to be in the distant past, then it also has to be possible for soul mates to be in the distant future. After all, your soul mate’s soul mate is.

So let’s assume your soul mate lives at the same time as you. Furthermore, to keep things from getting creepy, we’ll assume they’re within a few years of your age. (This is stricter than the standard age gap creepiness formula, but if we assume a 30-year-old and a 40-year-old can be soul mates, then the creepiness rule is violated if they accidentally meet 15 years earlier.) With the same-age restriction, most of us have a pool of around half a billion potential matches.

But what about gender and sexual orientation? And culture? And language? We could keep using demographics to try to break things down further, but we’d be drifting away from the idea of a random soul mate. In our scenario, you don’t know anything about who your soul mate will be until you look into their eyes. Everybody has only one orientation—toward their soul mate.

The odds of running into your soul mate are incredibly small. The number of strangers we make eye contact with each day is hard to estimate. It can vary from almost none (shut-ins or people in small towns) to many thousands (a police officer in Times Square). Let’s suppose you lock eyes with an average of a few dozen new strangers each day. (I’m pretty introverted, so for me that’s definitely a generous estimate.) If 10% of them are close to your age, that’s around 50,000 people in a lifetime. Given that you have 500,000,000 potential soul mates, it means you’ll only find true love in one lifetime out of ten thousand.

But with the threat of dying alone looming so imminently, society could restructure to try to enable as much eye contact as possible. We could put together massive conveyer belts to move lines of people past each other …

... but if the eye contact effect works over webcams, we could just use a modified version of ChatRoulette.

If everyone used the system for eight hours a day, seven days a week, and if it takes you a couple seconds to decide if someone’s your soul mate, this system could—in theory—match everyone up with their soul mates in a few decades. (I modeled a few simple systems to estimate how quickly people would pair off and drop out of the singles pool. If you want to try to work through the math for a particular setup, you might start by looking at derangement problems.)

In the real world, many people have trouble finding any time at all for romance—few could devote two decades to it. So maybe only rich kids would be able to afford to sit around on SoulMateRoulette. Unfortunately for the proverbial 1%, most of their soul mates are to be found in the other 99%. If only 1% of people use the service, then 1% of that 1% would find their match through this system—one in ten thousand.

The other 99% of the 1% (“We are the zero point nine nine percent!”) would have an incentive to get more people into the system. They might sponsor projects akin to One Laptop Per Child (but with a sleazier vibe). Careers like “cashier” and “police officer in Times Square” would become high-status prizes because of the eye contact potential. People would flock to cities and public gathering places to find love—just as they do now.

But even if a bunch of us spent years on SoulMateRoulette, another bunch of us managed to hold jobs that offered constant eye contact with strangers, and the rest of us just hoped for luck, only a small minority of us would ever find true love. The rest of us would be out of luck.

Given all the stress and pressure, some people would fake it. They’d want to join the club, so they’d get together with another lonely person and stage a fake soul mate encounter. They’d marry, hide their relationship problems, and struggle to present a happy face to their friends and family. (Of course, this never happens in our world.)

All in all, the world of random soul mates is an even lonelier one than ours. I prefer Tim Minchin’s take on things:

With all my heart and all my mind I know one thing is true:
I have just one life and just one love and, my love, that love is you.

And if it wasn't for you, baby,
I really think that I would
have somebody else.

 https://what-if.xkcd.com/9/

Winnie the Pooh’s wise words on transcending meditation

Here’s Winnie the Pooh – describing the experience of the transcendental and affirming that anyone can experience it without much effort  

“Sometimes, if you stand on the bottom rail of a bridge and lean over to watch the river slipping slowly away beneath you, you suddenly know everything there is to be known.”

“Don’t underestimate the value of Doing Nothing, of just going along, listening to all the things you can’t hear, and not bothering.”

“Did you ever stop to think, and forget to start again?”

“People say nothing is impossible, but I do nothing every day.”

Source:http://tmhome.com/news-events/winnie-the-pooh-quotes-on-meditation/

Meditation- create health and well-being.

            

Brenda Lyons http://www.falconmoon.com/fantasy.html

Welcome to the Meditation page, a guide to help you create and develop your personal meditation practice and routine.

Many people commonly hold the image of meditation as focused on clearing the mind, holding certain seated positions, chanting "om's" and transcending the body. 

With Druidry meditation is more focused on the following

• The connection of body,mind,emotions and spirit.
• Deepening our awareness and connection to our body
• Strengthening our sense of connection to nature and the natural world
• Embracing/integrating emotions  and more richness in life 

To begin lets explore some of the ways meditation works and also the basics to make sure you get the best out of your experience.

How Meditation works

Our thoughts, feelings, body and actions are all influenced by each other and are inter-related as the image below depicts.

Our brain is a complex muscle and like all  muscles can become stressed, unwell or tight. Often stress is a core root of most ailments and modern problems , the constant mental chatter and worry over things, people and  emotions is something most people can relate to. You are probably feeling tense even reading this!

Most people say that its hard to find the "off switch" in their head, they feel that their body is tense or  as if they are purely "reacting" to life ,rather than fully  living it.

Meditation can help change this by creating "mind strength" which is one of the most empowering tools we can employ to impact and improve all aspects of life.

By learning to relax our body through breathing and focus our mind on peaceful or enjoyable images ,we begin to unwind and our emotions become soothed. We actually change the way our mind functions with meditation, enabling  us to move from higher frequency brain waves to lower frequency and calm the mind.

Slower wavelengths mean more time between thoughts, which means more opportunity to skillfully choose which thoughts you invest.

The following is an article on the scientific studies that support the incredible benefits of regular meditation

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/11/15/meditation-emotional-processing-emotions-brain_n_2123753.html

How to meditate.

The breath and mind work in tandem, so as breath begins to lengthen, brain waves begin to calm and slow down, but also the body responds by relaxing. There is no failure or success in meditation as it is a skill we learn to develop over consistent practice.

• Make sure you are warm, place some  relaxing music on, incense etc
• To begin the meditation,become comfortable, close your eyes, and eliminate as many interruptions as possible to ensure you can fully relax.
• Watch your breath. Simply notice your breath flowing in. Flowing out. Don’t try to change it in any way. Just notice.
• Silently repeat the mantra: “Breathing In. Breathing Out.” As your mind begins to wander, draw it back to your breath. Notice that as your breath begins to lengthen and fill your body, your mind begins to calm.
• Become aware of your body and slowly working from head to toe/toe to head focus and relax each muscle,joint, fibre of you body.
• You may wish to visualize a golden or coloured light filling your body as you do this
• Any thoughts , notice them and allow them to flow away/breath them out.
• Consistency is key.
• Either follow a visualisation/mantra/chant or allow this time for contemplation
• When you are finished take your time before you move or doing anything
• Short regular meditation sessions are much more beneficial than irregular or long.

Tips and tools.

• Choose a position you are comfortable in and ensure you are warm.
• Turn of phones etc so you are not disturbed. Create ambience with music, a favourite pillow/blanket,candles, scents etc 
• Short and regular are the best practice
• Thoughts do pop into our head and allow these to flow past or refocus on your breathing
• If you find following imagery difficult instead focus on the sensations or awareness's. 
• People can sometimes get "lost" and in this case refocus on your breathing and follow from where you can.
• Meditation can be for creating uplifting feelings and energizing
• Themes of meditation can include - compassion,de-stressing, self esteem, chakra's, reducing pain/discomfort, health, spirituality, problem solving etc
• With time meditation can be in silence and without imagery but choose what you are happiest with, not what is "expected"
• Meditation can be moving or focused on an activity such as walking, eating etc.
• Make it a time for self nourishment and care! 

Music link for meditation tracks .

http://www.rhapsody.com/artist/christopher-lloyd-clarke/album/vision-quest/track/the-journey

http://www.anugama.com/

Guided Meditations

http://druidtherapy.blogspot.co.nz/2013/06/the-wings-of-change.html

http://druidtherapy.blogspot.co.nz/2013/04/meditate-your-way-to-compassion.html

Source: http://druidtherapy.blogspot.com/p/meditation-to-create-health-and.html

Learning How to Float by Mark Nepo

When we stop struggling,

we float.

When first learning how to swim, I didn’t trust the deep. No matter how many assuring

voices I heard from the shore, I strained and flapped to keep my chin above the

surface. It exhausted me, and only when exhausted did I relax enough to immerse

myself to the point that I could feel the cradle of the deep keep me afloat.

I’ve come to understand that this is the struggle we all replay between doubt and faith.

When thrust into any situation over our head, our reflex is to fight with all our might

the terrible feeling that we are sinking. Yet the more we resist, the more we feel our own

weight and wear ourselves out.

At times like this, I remember learning to float. Mysteriously, it required letting almost

all of me rest below the surface before the deep would hold me up. It seems to me,

almost forty years later, that the practice of finding our faith is very much like that—we

need to rest enough of ourselves below the surface of things until we find ourselves

upheld.

This is very hard to do. But the essence of trust is believing you will be held up if you

let go. And though we can practice relaxing our fear and meeting the deep, there is no

real way to prepare for letting go other than to just let go.

Once immersed, once below the surface, it is not by chance that things slow down, go

clear, feel weightless. Perhaps faith is nothing more than taking the risk to rest below

the surface.

That we can’t stay there only affirms that we must choose the deep again and again in

order to live fully. That we must move through the sense of sinking before being upheld

is what trusting the Universe is all about.

~Mark Nepo, The Book of Awakening

Mark Nepo

Anxiously Digging for an Answer

Everyone has had their share of “Aha!" moments in life which can be such a relief! A person can have an Aha moment when they suddenly wake up and realize that it is time to get out of a bad situation, for example. An Aha moment can occur when we suddenly find a clever new way to solve a problem that has caused us deep and often lasting stress. Clearly, Aha moments are to be greatly valued, because an Aha moment can be symbolically like finding the way out of a deep hole that we have been trapped in for weeks, months or even years.

There is a downside to the concept of Aha moments particularly for people who suffer from prolonged stress and anxiety or other mental health or substance-related issues. These days, there are so many things out there to worry about whether it be financial issues, health issues, employment problems, troubling world events, threats to safety and security, etc.; the list goes on and on. When it comes to these special Aha moments in which the light of insight and self-discovery suddenly shines down on us, thereby showing the way out, the reality is that Aha moments are usually rare and often few and far between. The vast majority of problems out there that weigh on our minds and contribute to stress and anxiety cannot be solved in a simple “Aha!” moment. Usually if there was a simple answer to a lot of the more anxiety-producing issues out there, then most of these problems would already be solved. What often can instead increase anxiety and the racing thoughts that keep people up at night is the dilemma of waiting for an Aha moment that never comes while otherwise doing little else of value to try to cope.


So what can be done instead? When you’re at the bottom of a dark pit of stress, obsession, and worry, then waiting for an Aha moment when someone symbolically throws down a ladder for you to climb out can be an exercise in futility that can perpetuate, rather than alleviate anxiety. The energy involved with overthinking and obsessing often makes matters worse, not better with time. Most of these types of problems are more about looking at what we can do, little by little, to simply start the process of climbing out. Taking it a step further, rather than anxiously waiting for an Aha moment that may never come, the simplest place to start is to open your eyes, and stop digging yourself deeper into the seemingly endless pit of anxiety and worry.

http://takingtheescalator.blogspot.com/2014/08/anxiously-digging-for-answer.html

On Shaky Ground...

If your aim was to tell the world how great chocolate ice cream is, would you focus primarily on trying to convince others that vanilla tasted lousy? Most people would say “of course not” and spend more of their energy getting people to taste and experience the joys of chocolate and then go onward from there. This is kind of a silly example but it is a way to illustrate an all too common phenomenon in today’s world. What I am talking about here is the tactic of trying to convince others of one’s opinion simply by breaking down opposing viewpoints. Consider some real life examples:

      >The sports fan who spends the majority of the game taunting the other team’s fans and telling them that their team sucks instead of focusing on rooting for and supporting his own team.

      > The politically inclined person who constantly breaks down the opposing party’s policies     and decisions in an effort to ty to prove them as foolish or misguided, while never really making a reasonable case why his own political viewpoint is helpful or beneficial to society.

      > A person who develops a methodology for helping others with some kind of personal struggle (such as an addiction or mental health issue) that in reality is just based on poking holes in existing methods by explaining why they may not work, while instead neglecting to clearly outline another course of self-improvement that really does work.

      >A person who spends time making fun of or undermining others beliefs (such as religious or other spiritual beliefs, for example) while remaining vague and unclear with regard to a better explanation as to why their own beliefs might provide an improved framework in the ongoing search for meaning and purpose in life.


Of course there is value in challenging and questioning established beliefs, methods, ideas, viewpoints, etc., that we may not agree with. Many things can be learned by objectively cross-examining, testing and carefully scrutinizing opposing sides to the story. Nevertheless, the point being made here is that one’s primary objective should never be to break down others but rather it is so much more useful to build up. I am a firm believer that if a person’s principal mode of teaching, convincing, or persuading others of their viewpoint is based on criticism and generating doubt then that is a red flag when it comes to deciding if this is a person worth listening too for any extended period. Because once the criticism, disparaging and denouncing is all done then the real question is, what is left? In other words, if the main focus is all about tearing down over and over, then in the end, aren’t we all just left with a pile of rubble at our feet and nowhere else to go? Instead, questioning, challenging, investigating, protesting, and confronting viewpoints and beliefs that we do not agree with should be counterbalanced. What so many of us are really searching for is a healthy dose of encouragement, instruction, guidance, enlightenment, and coaching toward healthy alternatives that brings with it a tangible hope for something better.
http://takingtheescalator.blogspot.com/2014/04/on-shaky-ground.html